Child Abuse and Molesting in Turkey

 Whenever ı read or listen to news of Turkey I'm about to cry or pour out children troubles, I can't believe how people can be such prone to violence, want to hurt someone and continue to their fucking life without feeling a sense of guilt. I feel shame for my countryman and disgust from them. 

 Neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse break children heart and hurt deeply and not just their sweet, lovely heart also they experiencing such terrible harassment they are not being able to complate their personality healthily. They start feeling guilty, dirty and doomy. Don't we see how we damage their self-improvement Imagine a child who has dreams, clean heart, soft, exorable and trust everybody until having scary experience by such ignoble and dishonest men or women. Despite there are millions of men doing that unacceptable behaviors there are a lot of impertinent women too. Nobody is blameless also I'm not because we don't make something good and helpful to them just we read news feel sad for ten minutes and after forgetting because for now we are in reliable environment, dormitories or family but there is also homeless, orphan and lonely children and we fall them off to the bosom of dangerous people. 

 Let me tackle another side, children who have the good family good education opportunities and its mr. nice guy they are also in distress by reason of other children's bad experiences, friends of their  parents who are pedophilia and even their teachers! Especially in society for the protection of children and in prisons they make and try what they want on children and there is no inspection by government to the these associations.

 In recent years, child abuse and omission gradually increase in my country ı write that in shame. Between 2010-2016 more than a hundred thousands of people raped and most of them afraid complaining to the police because prison sentences are not a deterrent and after coming back from police station they continue to their torture angrier. Children get these experiences usually by their close relations so in this situation it is really difficult to determine and solve the problem and they live their childhood full of trauma. Some reasons for not to complain; they think nobody will believe them, they will get into trouble, threaten by exploiter, they love the exploiter (for ex: their parents), they don't know how to explain, they don't know if these sexual behaviors are wrong (because they are small children:(  ), they afraid of that everybody will learn his or her experience and they will be alienated by their friends...

 Next phase, they suffering from chronic mental illnesses such as post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, panic, depression, phobia, insensitivity, loss of trust, loss of self-respect, shame, sleeplessness, drug and alcohol abuse, start smoking, suicide attempt, disgust and fearful. All in all, this is our problem and connivance it is public health problem ! 

 There is the huge lack of parenting skills,support and the irrelevance of government. We all must help an abused or neglected child (first I blame myself because I did nothing helpful). Teachers and parents must take responsibility because they can stop abuse early they should observe children if there are differences in their behavior like moving in trouble, more anger than usual or extreme silence, nervous and calm. Don't forget child abuse occurs in all types of the family your children may also be in danger and can suffer even untreated mental illness. Please try to recognize abuse behaviors in your children, students or friends and take care of them we can deal with that.

 It occurs next to us don't pass over. Children are our future, and in the future, we need healthy and clear mind people. I invite you to be sensitive and awake.

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Wishing more liveable world
Hazal BOÇNAK